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Emotional Labour

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You know, what I think I’m doing with my divergent theories and my “book,” by complaining about spanking and police, by trying to tell people we are drowning in the toxic byproducts of these behaviours, what I fancy I’m doing is the emotional labour for the whole goddam world.

From my very first formulations, from when I heard someone say, “I hit them, but it doesn’t hurt them,” and I would simply argue – it does! Maybe it doesn’t kill them, but it hurts them. Don’t you know that’s what hitting is for? If it doesn’t hurt them, why hit them? – and that is the definition of emotional labour, explaining to someone that they’re hurting someone, figuring out for them that the hurt they cause is what is coming back to bother them now, in this case perhaps explaining to a parent why their adult child doesn’t speak to them anymore.

Emotional labour is doing someone’s thinking for them in the realm of feelings, right?

But everyone says that, “it doesn’t hurt them,” stuff, at least almost everyone in my white, North American, formerly so also European life – so I’m trying to do it for everyone: it does, you fools. Something is wrong with you, it’s obvious, or it ought to be. It’s what’s coming back to bother you now, in terms of angry fascists the world over melting down into another world war.

You owe me ten million dollars for that judgement, it’s the labour of a lifetime. Labour isn’t free.

That’s real, you aren’t dealing with the bad feelings you ignore with that rather obvious fallacy of consensus lie. You can gaslight your kid, you can all pretend to one another that it’s true – but you can’t gaslight an entire world of repressed childhood righteous rage – that little gem is the product of the emotional labour I have done for you. That’s why I ought to get the big bucks.

Because like in a movie, “Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children,” I can see the monsters. That’s a great metaphor for emotional labour, isn’t it, you can’t see it and it will destroy you, you need me.

That’s a trade-off, when you’re the “strong,” one, you farm your emotional work out, like the social sexual dimorphism we have now, Dad is “strong,” so Mom is “loving,” right? Except Mom is often enough “strong,” enough to beat your ass too, and the kids maybe try, but basically no-one is doing humankind’s emotional labour anymore.

I mean, no-one but me of course, but I don’t imagine I’m the last of God’s Fools quite yet.

But y’all are not letting me do it, y’all are not talking the advice or the lessons. I searched for a definition online to give you, but I saw half of them were the very opposite, “workplace emotional labour,” means suppressing and ignoring your feelings, not planning for them – normal people get a lot of things backwards like that – so half of y’all have worse than no concept of what it is, a backwards one, with your salary in the balance of which you choose.

A lot of things – but my goodness, that’s a bad one, redefining the cure as the disease and vice versa.

And here we are again, at the end of another film, “Legend,” with me begging your sort to let me help you, you know, instead of killing everybody.

Jeff

Sept. 17th., 2024

Everything, Just Everything

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Every time I talk it’s an infodump because it’s never enough, and I try not to notice in order to avoid catatonia, to keep moving, but it’s the whole world, everything, so it’s only “true,” while I keep talking because it’s not wrong or a lie until you finish – but the second I stop, it was all flawed, incomplete. Garbage.

It’s never enough because we have no common ground, zero.

I saw an image of a social media post today where some man asked, “If there were no men, who would protect you?” and some clever women responded, “From who?” – and this is true of all of it, the government and their army, the police, “protecting us,” – from who?

There is always some mythical enemy in most of what they say, everything is geared against some, “them,” no matter what they’re talking about, whether there really is any such group or even could be, still, some “they,” are always to be prepared for.

There is hate at the bottom of it, not towards anyone specific in the here and now, maybe, but still,  you know they’re coming: people. “They,” are people, the enemy is people, and you’re not one of us if you don’t intuitively grasp this . . . I know. It sounds crazy; it’s a mobius strip of logic, you’re not one of us unless you hate . . . us. I’m telling you though, nothing else fits.

I mean, “us,” gets parsed, us, but not you, I like you. So we’re innocent of “hating people,” if we like any of them.

It’s everything.

This species hates itself and it is committing a global murder suicide, clearly we have had enough and we can’t take it anymore.

Everyone hates child abusers, in prison, the worst sorts can feel good about themselves when they speak of child abusers – but there’s a trick, the Monkey’s Paw surprise: spanking doesn’t count. No-one is a child abuser because hitting them doesn’t count. You don’t think people hate people?

Imagine hating dogs so much that you beat puppies.

Imagine everybody understands if you do!

Not a thing, because people don’t hate dogs like that. Right?

I’m not making moral judgements, there’s no power there, morality to this animal means punishment, which is abuse, I do not wish to impress this creature in terms of its “morality.” I’m saying it’s suicide, that’s not a moral issue for me, your life is yours to lose if you prefer. But that’s what’s going on: you think people are the enemy, so you’re killing them all, even your doctors and the people who grow your food.

It’s ironic, just short of funny when this species speaks of good and life and then goes home to beat its children: the children and the world feel what you do, and you can make the children forget, or force a recontextualization upon them about it – but you can’t talk the world out of it. There are consequences. It is always sad to hear of some plan to do some good: it doesn’t matter what little good you do if all the children are raised in a violent crucible where the adults prove to each of them that people are the enemy because if even Dad and Mom attack you, what else are we to think?

Of course people hate people if human caregivers attack human children.

What other outcome could we possibly imagine?

In the end, the “help,” is extremely limited, hobbled by the “normal,” business of hating and competing with people instead and the hate is the main revenue stream: the help are the gratuities, the sort of help that changes nothing.

I’m sure you’re arguing, I don’t hate people!

This almost certainly happened to you. You were almost certainly a young child with some sense of your rights that got spanked, so of COURSE you hate people, if you don’t seem to feel it, it should still be your first guess about how you feel because OF COURSE. How not? Why wouldn’t you?

If you don’t hate people after that, I’m offended and I demand to know why, what is wrong with you. Isn’t that probably the Oedipus complex? I’m not the first to suggest there are inherent conflicts in human life, am I?

Even the most violent prisoners hate child abusers, but not your very young self? Am I to assume that we are born thinking that violence to our own young self is “not abuse?”

One, I don’t want to believe it, even about Allistic people, but for the same reason I don’t want to, what’s the point in believing it? Where’s the hope, what’s to be done if that’s the case? That’s like Dark Tribbles, Well, Jim, near as I can tell, they’re born killers! Case closed.

Two, my logical problem with it is, then, so you’re saying spanking does nothing? And again, how does anything do nothing, and why wouldn’t it, and OF COURSE it does something.

And show me your list of all the other things that everyone does all day because it does nothing, what else do we do because it doesn’t “do anything?”

But is it sort of magic, the way it is self-operating, isn’t it, if you’re spanked you have a reason to hate people, if you hate people, maybe spanking – child abuse – seems OK to you – we do it because we do it. Right? That’s hard to argue away, a circle that tight. It’s not something we were argued into, as the meme goes. In this sense, of no change from generation to generation, it sort of “doesn’t do anything,” in that we’ve done it for a very long time and it doesn’t appear to change anything anymore.

But not doing it would have to be “doing something,” then, I suppose, I mean, that’s what I think, that’s often when we find out that what we were doing was indeed “doing something,” making other things happen, when we change – again, falling into the analogy of the psychology of addiction. Also like that though, is we also already knew it all deep down already, sort of, but seeing is a different level of believing, when we change.

Or so I hear.

Jeff

Sept. 5th., 2024

The Autistic and the Blade One, Update: new blog just for it.

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I’ve written a short book, the one I’ve been threatening to, I think I’ve stated the idea in a few blogs, I’ve adapted Riane Eisler’s “The Chalice and the Blade,” for spanking and for Neurotype, to rename her social models Neurological Types, Neurotypes instead, and to try to trace the spread of the type and the genes for what Dr. Eisler calls the Dominators, the people “following the Dominator social model,” in their words, through prehistory and history, following their book.

“Normal people,” in mine, Neurotypical people.

I’m trying to let some time pass before I put it on this popular site, I’ve only just finished and just warned Dr. Eisler’s website that I’m up to this, I suppose I’ll give them next week to stop me, of course I don’t expect an answer.

Jeff

Aug. 9th., 2024

Here it is:

https://thespankinggene.blog/

Brutal ND Theory

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Before all the normal people get upset, realize that the people representing all you nice normal folks to us Autistics are the Tylenol Moms who want to make sure none of us are ever born again, and the ABA practitioners who torture us as children, realize that I am not throwing the first punches here, not by a long shot.

As brutal as I am about to be regarding your sort, I’m just talking, so you got nothing moral to say to anybody about it until the hate and the torture stops.

 Allism is Human Nature, whether evil, or flawed, or “with a legacy of our ape past,” and with its common fallacies and biases. Allism is caused by spanking, an environment of threat and violence sets Allistic children’s “warrior genes,” to fight mode, making them aggressive. Allistic parents do this consciously, feeling that if their child is more aggressive than the next, that they will have a better life than the next.

Everything about Allistic life centres on this binary, self and Other, they all place themselves among some hostile Other, and justify their aggression by projecting it onto everyone else, they are somehow All the Same, but also Alone in an Hostile World. Allism means the Other is wrong, and also the they are the same, with Allism, we are ALL wrong.

With everything to do with Allism, it gets a smaller name and a smaller explanation, it is only some people, only our people, so for Europeans it is CHRISTIAN We Are All Wrong, Original Sin. I think in the east it is the Buddha who says All Life is Sorrow and we are wrong to still be here. In ancient Egypt, I guess all deserved to die and rot unless they had the earthly power to preserve their earthly bodies for all time, surely there was something wrong with all of them too.

The aggression seems to be the point, both consciously and unconsciously, but along with, whether this makes total logical sense to you, or if it’s only one of those things, you change one genetic thing you get many changes, like they learned with the foxes – other neurological things change. Like they are somehow opposed to evolution, and cannot learn it, and so are entirely non-viable.

If not understanding the world as well as the average wild animal does and so living in constant violent conflict with the world is the price of this adaptation of aggression, then we ought to let it go, go back to being passive, but, it’s a conundrum. “Be less strong,” simply does not compute for them, that is their bottom line, or they think it is, which means the same thing (do you kids understand that expression anymore, does not compute? It means a not sane command, an un-followable instruction for an old TV robot. Nonsense. A command it has no program for).  There does not appear to be hardware support for saying No to Strong in the Allistic brain. At least they don’t let it out into the world if there is.

The best I hear is, Strong AND good things, but that’s clearly not how this gene works. They are making a choice.

About The Chalice and the Blade:

Ten to seven thousand years ago, they turned their back on not some fictional Goddess, but on evolution, on nature and reality. The supremacy of the blade and the stories of spontaneous “creation,” utterly disconnected from any logic or reality,* were the beginning of the end. They insist that things work how they do not and they are not blind to the failure, they seem to see the end coming, but they are utterly blind to their part in it, and to any other possibility.

Simple like that.

Spanking causes Allism, Allism is actuarially R-worded and cannot see natural causality, like spanking, and so it’s over. That sort of a circle is a blind alley and a dead end. This spanked creature learned that words mean nothing and violence is the only logic before they could talk, you try to teach them, they fight you instead, always winning and never learning a goddam thing.

Sometimes I get angry, it’s ultimately frustrating, and declare that they deserve what they are about to get, but of course, every other living creature on this rock doesn’t, and anyway, what’d that guy say, Deserve’s got nothing to do with it. “Deserve,” is part of the lethal mutation that some of us, your humble author, don’t have and aren’t supposed to talk about.

My apologies.

Jeff

July 29th., 2024

Paleolithic Emotions

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I think this is the third person in maybe a month or two that I have had this same collision with. I’m online, trying to tell people that evolution is as alive and well today as it has ever been, and it seems to fail the very same way each time.

Here’s the latest real example, the author of Chaos! Posted a popular soundbite from the late great E. O. Wilson.

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Peter Gleick@petergleick@fediscience.org

E.O. Wilson, who must have spent much of his life thinking about comparisons between ants (one of the major subjects of his research) and humans, once said:

“The real problem of humanity is the following: We have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions, and godlike technology.”

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Which I tried to turn into a lesson for people, clearly not in a productive way:

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the Amygdalai Lama@punishmenthurts@neurodifferent.me (Me)

This ought to be out of date. I love him too, but the idea of Paleolithic emotions smacks of the permanence of creationism, not the constant change of evolution.

Paleolithic people or chimpanzees are not the problem. The bloody CURRENT model is the problem.

This is an example of what I call “evolution in name only,” the new word, referencing the forever brain paths, where we blame some initial condition that really isn’t there.

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This is my usual train of thought, part of my whole divergent worldview. I don’t really expect people to understand or agree, and I’m afraid I’m getting short, I’m getting cynical that my long explanations are any better. I’m starting to just say it, bluffing, sort of, trying to make it sound like I know what I’m talking about and I don’t care if you get it – which is sort of true. Divergent, as I said.

I changed my mind about that, I guess, and I tried to continue, make sense of it for folks:

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Me again:

I mean, did evolution stop, regarding us alone? Why?

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Someone asked:

It didn’t stop… who said it stopped?

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Me again:

He said we have Paleolithic emotions, that means our emotions stopped evolving what, 12,000 years ago?

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Someone said:

Not really. It just means that our set of emotions is considered stable enough that evolution hasn’t made any breaking changes recently.

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Which I wasn’t having:

Me again:

Same answer different words.

EVERYTHING changed since then, everything. Everything but us and our feelings? It is SUCH Allistic science! EVERYTHING changed – because We are All the Same and Always Have Been.

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Someone said:

The Amygdalai Lama, why would you expect that evolution, for a trait so deep and for a species so complex, could produce any noticeable change in that trait, for the entire species, after such a short time?

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There were other things along with that, and I’ll put all my answers together:

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Me again:

Short time? Three, four, five hundred generations since the Neolithic revolutions? What is evolution if it doesn’t operate in every generation? What adds up to change if there is no change every generation?

What would be the point in adapting to something generations after the fact? Evolution is not an origin story; it is as real today as it ever was.

The environment is changing and so are we, you are probably different from your parents, because your world is, and whatever adaptations they made are in you.

Again, if evolution is real and it is, it is happening, always, we didn’t somehow stop it.

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Me again:

Why did traits “originate,” 12,000 years ago and not anymore? This is like religion, like in ancient times, God used to reveal Himself, used to appear and talk to people – just not anymore.

The thoughts map together perfectly.

You’re repeating yourself, “deep traits,” is circular, they’re “deep traits,” because you say they “originated,” 12,000 ya.

So, I will too: evolution is real, today, it is not an origin story that happened in prehistory. Evolution makes everything – not everything “except culture.”

World wars are evolution.

Bad evolution, but evolution.

When something didn’t exist, and then it does?

– that’s evolution.

Your insistence on long periods of time is out of date for every creature on Earth – except human beings, for some reason.

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Me again:

With the religion comparison, you can see how the shape of this thought existed about religion, long before Wallace and Darwin were born, I think this thought is an evolved one, about a Before Time and a Now.

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Someone argued that “in ways, nothing has changed,” or something:

Me again:

OK, so you don’t think there has been a noticeable change in human life since the Paleolithic?

The cities, the industry, the agriculture, the tech, the wars – not “noticeable? any of that? All there, always? I don’t get it. Is it simply circular, we were the same because we were the same?

Sorry, I don’t get it.

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Someone said (along with some other things):

“The cities, the industry”—those things aren’t “deep” traits encoded in genes.

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Me again:

“The cities, the industry,” – these are not traits, these are environments, new, different environments that living creatures adapt to, that’s my point.

You seem to think the environment keeps changing but the creature making it stays the same, at least anatomically and emotionally, and that’s not evolution. Again, that’s Before Time vs Now, something like the creationist shape of things.

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Me again:

Just because a creature starts having serious impacts on its environment and becomes its environment’s main driving factor, even – doesn’t mean it stops adapting to that environment, is my point, and that does seem to be what we think, if we think about it, doesn’t it? Like someone’s “in charge,” or something, us, or evolution, and of course not.

We are creating our environment, adapting to it and then recreating it every generation, getting more and more . . . something, let’s not divert into what exactly, but getting more and more adapted to and for something – this is not “Paleolithic emotions,” this is present day adaptation of our minds and our emotions.

And that is relevant and can be dealt with – whereas, sorry, you’re stuck with era-old emotions is pointless and hopeless. Again, the shape of creationism, fate.

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Me again:

I’m sure y’all got an emotion or two your Paleolithic ancestors didn’t have, like dreams of world domination, or fears of Armageddon.

And maybe we shed a few too.

Sure, there’re probably some common ones, why not?

But why does it have to sound like the Same, Forever?

Or if they’re the same, what does the past have to do with anything, if we’re still in that same era that way?

I mean, why is the past causative, but the present is not?

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That’s the shape of a creation myth, the past is causative, and the present is not, right?

Me again:

In the past, bears kept us in fight or flight mode, today, police keep us in fight or flight mode – why is the bear causative and the police are not? Maybe we think of the past as humanity’s childhood, our formative years?

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That would be a fallacy, just saying.

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Me again:

It occurs to me that I read a whole book about how we lost an ancient emotion to become this modern thing.

It was The Goodness Paradox, by Richard Wrangham, a lovely man, and he was promoting a sort of a Dual Nature for humanity, to explain the conflicts, but the main thread of the book was that chimpanzees and animals generally have a reactive sort of violence, that they fight when attacked or put upon unreasonably, and that what humans developed was a more proactive sort of violence, where we suppress our natural reaction to bullying and authority, and live with, giving and taking a more planned sort of violence, punishments, and war and whatnot – but that the natural chimpanzee reactivity is why they are terrible employees and you are not.

So, there’s a Paleolithic emotion we don’t actually have anymore, and a case that the violence our world suffers now is not incumbent, the old thing in the world, but our NEW innovation.

Stay and learn, they who have ears to hear, probably meaning neurology to hear.

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Me again:

I hadn’t changed topics. I thought the Goodness Paradox made the case that the troublesome emotions are new ones, not the OG primate ones.

But there’s a matter of interpretation, of time scales – whenever this happened, if it began 300,000 years ago when they start counting us as human, I would still say that is “new,” because we are new, and that we should think about our latest modifications as new, the latest, not the OG features: these features changed and we became human, this is our current species, and what changed to make us human is our most recent history, not our genesis.

It’s sort of the point of evolution that there is no genesis.

And if it’s only twelve thousand years ago, then I think it’s REALLY new. Part of my theory is that Allistics have been in the majority, or had the upper hand in this period, for twelve to fifteen thousand years now – and that is a flash in the pan for a species and they have soiled the bed spectacularly in no time, that the Allistic isn’t a viable genetic option.

Sorry, too much?

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Me again:

Really, what I replace the “Paleolithic Emotions,” meme with is the Antisocialization we all get in our lives today, we do not have to go cherry picking the deep past for emotions that of course we are going to have if we are treated badly, and we are, this is really what I think.

Sorry about that, it’s the ’tism, everything comes out sideways.

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Having said that, it’s all part of it, creating this Antisocialization is what I call the new “emotion,” the new emotional manipulation, and I think it became the dominant way of life during what we call the Neolithic Revolutions, and this is not far from what E.O. said, that we are living with something from back then, except it’s crucial in my mind that what it is we are living with is not an old, “natural,” set of forever emotions, but a newer and more sinister thing than normal animal emotions, a sort of a hack, a system of making ourselves feel bad, of forcing people into their worst emotions.

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Somebody said I’m simply taking a pithy soundbite too seriously.

Me again:

Ah, OK . . .

If it were a one-off, maybe – and maybe it was for him, I can’t say. I don’t build these edifices over a single utterance, though, the whole world agrees with him . . . perhaps literally isn’t the word, is it, uh, mythologically? As a background to what they think about?

Yes, it’s the normal narrative: we had Original Sin, and now we have Paleolithic Emotions, it maps perfectly, so everybody basically believes it – whether the great man really did in his complex thoughts or not.

Trivers said we all speak in single notes and melodies, and E.O. spoke in chords, every word having six meanings, honestly, I know I am no-one to take on E.O. Wilson.

But this expresses a social belief, a common one. That’s what I’m arguing with. The popularity of the meme, not the author.

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Same as those ones from Voltaire and Chomsky. Ha.

Jeff

June 2nd., 2024

The Law VS Evolution: Taking the Courts to Court

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No single Creator made this world. Nothing has an eternal Nature, and no-one needs to be controlled for it. The human world is made by humans, if we’re evil or broken, that’s on us and us alone, and to a great degree we are those things and it is on us, something we’re doing. Something we are, most of us say, the Nature thing again, but no, I’m sorry, that’s off the table, at least it is in my kitchen and that’s where you are right now, it’s something we do.

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In evolution, otherwise known as life, what we do and what we are travel together. What you do is what you are, what you do is what you are becoming.

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What we do is a lot of abuse to control the assumed Nature, and that eternal Nature isn’t really there, so what’s left? A lot of abuse to be what we are, to be what we are becoming, which, too obvious, but saying two plus two is a writer’s job, so: abuse victims and abusers. It’s on us, and no-one else. And again, always, it’s evolution, this isn’t something that happens to some eternal model of human in every life, all this is cumulative. In theory, and surely in an invisible reality, in the potful of water and frogs, every generation in a world of controlling abuse gets more so, more abusive, more abused.

Also, sorry to say, this doesn’t happen in the wild, and education won’t do it. I’m very much a privileged person, I don’t know anyone who didn’t go to school, but they all believe in the Nature. This happens at the top of our society, in the institutions. It is precisely the institutions of control that are at the centre of it. Who is rioting? The police, right? The peacekeepers, leading the charge for abuse in general.

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I mean, Law is based in the Natures, and as such is against natural law, meaning evolution. Law makes crime and criminals, and always, life is evolution, so it makes them cumulatively. It is amazing to watch police budgets take over everything, and they cannot imagine that it’s just stupid and misguided. They say: the people are getting worse, we need more money, as though the change happened in their absence, as if they have only been trying their way for a month.

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The simple logic, police are here, and people are getting worse, that’s two plus two in evolution, otherwise known as real life, but there is this matter of neurotype. Two plus two isn’t simple for everyone.

Jeff

May 7th., 2024

The Last Blog, the Puzzle

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I’m finished. I’m done, said it all or said enough for the world for a few centuries anyway. But I will confess, it’s not very clear, the blog’s a mess of divergent thinking and divergent grammar to boot and I personally could never suffer through enough of it to get the point, and I don’t expect anyone else to.

I’ve been fantasizing about auditing it for quality and relevance, see which ones were downright embarrassing and would turn you away and harm the cause and so need to be deleted, but honestly that thought centres around only a few entries, and any expansion of the criteria may wipe the hole thing out. Why bother.

Just know this: it was a journey, so the focus . . . evolves, probably from trying to express myself within the parameters of the NT science and psychology I began with to combat spanking, to evo sort of theories about why we spank, and then to neurodiversity based ideas about it, about how spanking pretty much defines and directs the majority neurotype.

It’s been a few years since I’ve boasted, but the kernel of the idea I began with has not changed and it has survived and evolved through all challenges, absorbing or simply refuting all challenges, but this only means that I am corroborating myself, it only means that within my view, I can make it all fit in a way that doesn’t offend my neurology. Not to minimize it completely, the whole world of human beings offends my neurology. It wasn’t easy finding my own mind. The whole world seemed to fight me.

On a personal level, this has been horribly, fantastically true.

I’ve learned something very recently, so it’s still hot, but . . . yeah.

Back to the blog, what I say here probably has its whole development in the blog somewhere, not that me saying it is a citation, but it’s an attempt to pre-emptively stop you thinking there isn’t a whole lot of thought behind this rather short iteration, the puzzle.

Spanking makes for authoritarianism.

No-one gets “better,” as in nicer from punitive abuse, all that is just words, and lies to boot. An environment of threat and abuse in childhood changes people, maybe just Allistic people. It sets an epigenetic option for authoritarianism, for violence.

Because evolution is how the world works, not how your stupid Dad said it works, by threats and deterrents. We evolve, we do not avoid.

But they won’t stop, this is the puzzle.

Either they are “nice,” people who believe the words or they are less nice people who believe in the result, the aggression, and call it strength. Neither sort will stop, the last statistic I heard, surely a decade or two old by now, said that eighty-five percent of Americans self reported spanking (doing it to children, not getting spanked. This clarification is necessary on social media). The rise of fascism would seem to suggest that it has not lessened more recently.

It makes them aggressive, spanking, and they won’t stop, because they are aggressive and aggressive is good, when you’ve been spanked. It is the most vicious of vicious circles, and it is the puzzle of the age, the one that because it hasn’t been solved, we cannot stop the rich from burning the oil, because the authoritarianism of money is to be expected when you’ve been spanked, because toxic madness is not something a spanked population can imagine life without. Spanking blots out the real world for the human social world of control, we are all forced to a choice by spanking, believe my mind and the reality I see, or believe Mom and Dad and survive?

Spanking pushes them over the edge into purely social. The violence in the environment sets them up to learn violence and hate, this is adaptation, learn it or fade away. The world is coming to a bad end, and we created an environment of threat and violence . . . weird to say: on purpose. I mean, spanking and cops, this is intentional, right? They certainly own it when they spank, it’s all You will do it My Way. They don’t seem to think it’s an accident when they do it.

The puzzle is to make them see it, to stop the spanking and watch their stupid “Natures,” miraculously change for the better, to convince an angry, aggressive creature that life would be better without it, that they themselves need to want to evolve in the other direction and it’s already too late, but like the old saying, the best time is generations ago, but second best is now.

Jeff

April 10th., 2024

There’s a Part Two:

The Puzzle, Part Two

The Wall

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So, there are five blind men, trying to identify an elephant.

Why is this the job of blind men? Well, for the purposes of the story, let’s say this is the whole town, everyone is blind, and hey, why not the whole world? It will still work, as long as you and I, Dear Reader, are still in this world and not in the story. It is a blind world and a blind little town, and these are the scientists among this blind population, these five. Why five? Well the elephant is an unknown, no-one knew which to call and simply called them all, I assume they must all have their own areas of expertise.

These five have lives and do not live together, so when they are called and come to inspect the new thing, they come from all around, and each approaches the thing from a different direction. The nearest and first to arrive encounters the tail of the beast and proposes that someone has hung a rope here but is no longer about to claim or explain it. The next one comes up beside the first, touches the elephant’s leg and says, Rope, what rope, this is a tree, while another meets the animal head on and declares that the town has been invaded by a huge snake.

A fourth scholar upon arrival finds an ear and has a theory, it is a great fan for some reason, I’m sorry, I only repeat the story, I wasn’t there. I don’t know how trees or fans just walk into town or suddenly appear – look, it’s not the point, OK?

Anyway, the last of the five appears with some pomp – apparently he was waiting in order to show up last – and broadsides the beast at full walking speed. Embarrassed and rubbing his nose, he bellows, What are you all talking about, it’s a bloody wall!

By now, a crowd has gathered and there is some quiet laughter and chatter going on. The other four examiners double checked and reiterated themselves, Sorry, no, it’s a rope, a fan, a tree, a snake.

Run, you fools! Shouted the one at the front. A snake this thick and standing this tall can surely eat people! But the other four were unmoved, assured of their own perceptions, and honest with himself, that scholar had to admit that the snake had not grabbed him, or demonstrated any aggression and all remained debating the situation, but the latest arrival, Mr. Wall, let us say, turned to address the crowd.

The wall broke my nose! It’s a hazard! He declared. No-one has been eaten by any snake, and ropes don’t break your nose by just hanging, and trees and giant fans don’t simply appear out of no-where, someone has built a wall!

He waved off the objections of his peers, still addressing the people hanging about. Are you going to wait until you break your noses too? He waded into the crowd, taking people’s hands and having them feel his swollen nose.

Ouch! said some empath, No, we don’t want that! What are those other guys thinking? At this, Mr. Wall grew serious. That’s a good question, he said, and honestly, I can’t explain it. They seem to have taken leave of their senses, don’t they? What sort of perversion turns a wall into a snake?

The buzz of the onlookers dropped an octave as well. Was there something wrong about the other scholars? Were they lying? Someone wondered, was this the first time? What other things have these four been telling us about? As these noises increased, the erroneous four melted into the background and made an escape, saying to one another, I may not know from walls, but I know from angry crowds, I’m out.

It happened that soon after the event that the wall disappeared, along with a great quantity of produce from the stalls along the town’s main street, and so with further study impossible, the wall incident passed into history. Mr. Wall made great hay and fame off of it, he would be the Father of Wallology, while three of the other four saw their reputations suffer and their departments’ budgets shrink, and they faded into retirement.

Mr. Snake published a somewhat successful book about the missing produce, which phenomenon happened a few more times, although no-one felt a wall during those events, so no-one paid much attention.

It would be the Age of Walls now, and dissenters would find themselves on the wrong side of it.

Jeff

March 7th., 2024

The Hard Pill

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It’s not easy hearing about neurotype, hearing about it and that it means you. I’m sorry. I’ve been trying to bludgeon people with it, I so ought to know better.

It’s not easy for anybody, is it, and of course, it means everybody.

It’s not easy for “normal people,” either.

I think in normal people’s normal paradigm, in the world of “Human Nature,” everyone is all things, at least we all have the potential for all things, like the individual is a molecule of the human element, made of what all of humanity is made of, a fractal sort of idea, as for one is for all, sort of a thing, but the existence of neurodiversity annihilates all that.

Perhaps we are atoms instead, and combine to make only neurotype molecules instead, and humanity is not one element but several, a compound element. From containing the possibilities of all of humanity within oneself to containing only some of them, this can only be a downgrade, a sad bit of learning for us all, but many folks on the divergent side learned it young and have lived with it already. For the Neurotypical, learning it must be comparable to the experience of a late hatching Autistic, what the Hell do you mean I am missing some big pieces and no-one cared to notice?

Except how many are forced to see it, not so many.

The force, ha – the Force – is on their side, and works against their self examination, to their own detriment. To know thyself is critical, but somehow we have evolved in such a way that not to has somehow become even more critical, we are a mystery, wrapped in an enigma, etc., insoluble and so unbeatable or something. There is something about your organizing principles can’t be disturbed if you don’t know what they are, or something.

That’s an intuition, too difficult to express. Don’t worry, it won’t be on the test.

But I have been screaming, “YOU are a neurotype too!,” at people online and getting predictable responses, it’s not going great. I need a real plan.

I need a way to soften it, present it as a positive, somehow.

I’ve considered something like, “Spike’s my friend, ‘cause he’s so big and strong,” and really, I can’t let the idea go, it sort of is the point for me, and that’s a compliment for them . . . but of course that will be the end of it, Thanks Kid, I know.

Sigh.

I’m open to suggestions.

Jeff

March 6th., 2024

False Legacies, Autism and Origin Stories

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My extrapolated, speculative theory of neurodiversity ought to turn the existing human origin story on its head.

It’s difficult, maybe impossible to express it, but I cannot stop trying.

First, the existing view is new, since Wallace and Darwin, kind of thing – and in the sense that the existing origin story isn’t that, but the same as since we started keeping any sort of history – that’s new too, in this conversation, in deep time where our species is hundreds of thousands or millions of years old.

The current view, looking back, is new, in terms of our species’ existence. Stretch it to the neolithic revolution, still new, relatively.

You would have to convince me that this present view of a progressive trajectory existed before then, during the tens of thousands of years when we were all sort of Indigenous the world over and not building big permanent cities, and I can’t imagine how you would. Perhaps it existed intermittently, during the empire parts of the cycle the Davids identified in The Dawn of Everything, but it didn’t rule always and forever. I don’t suppose we know how far into the past that pattern extends either.

But that’s step one, everything we think about the deep past is new, coming from modern minds.

New thought:

in creation stories, we arrive fully formed, human-hairless, and this suggests what I’m getting at: that the current origin stories tell of the creation of the new human, fully formed, suggesting that the story is recent, not an ape man story, that this mythical creation takes place in literal modern times, while upright, hairless, story telling people already inhabit the Earth.

For me, it is as easy to imagine these stories as describing the arrival of a type of person, the modern sort, rather than all people. Saying it is “the people,” like all the people – this is one thing this modern sort continues to do ever since also.

This idea, that creation stories take place during literal times, is borne out by the fact that every human group has its own, and generally does not credit their creator with making all the other peoples. They have their own, so this must be the case, that these stories all somehow acknowledge a creation event while acknowledging the existence of other peoples at the same time?

Ah, like Adam and Eve’s kids finding wives from somewhere, right?

I’m sorry, it’s a stretch.

But if anyone does build an Autistic origin story, it isn’t going to be compatible with the existing framework, a good version of this attempt is going to be a leap too.

But for me, the Allistic origin story, with the patriarchy and the rough Nature, has always been too much of a stretch, a leap this Autistic mind has never been able to make.

But whether their origin stories acknowledge creation as a neurotype event or not, the point is, the origin stories (and so the law and the philosophy and the science) are new and Allistic, our origin stories are only the Allistics’ origin stories.

This is a sliver, a thin slice of the logic from the other side here, but it’s long enough to pretend to draw a conclusion, at least, and then we can argue about that.

It ought to turn the human story on its head because it makes everything they claim as the way of the world forever not that at all, and it makes the mad human lifestyle not at all sustainable over three million years but rather as having destroyed the world in no time, since the neolithic revolution.

It ought to make clear what the problems are and stop burying them in an invented eternity.

Allistic “forever,” is NO TIME AT ALL, and if we were allowed to see it , we would see a new thing that isn’t working, at ALL.

I am about one beer from saying that spanking hails back to the neolithic revolution, and that seems radical as fuck, but farming changed lifestyles massively, didn’t it, and . . . and it sort of has to be that way, everything dates to then.

If not then, even earlier.

OK, not yet. There isn’t much about spanking in the Dawn of Everything, and a great sense that it wasn’t a thing on Turtle Island.

Twelve thousand years old in the Euro’s “Old world,” but hardly thought of here, is a little difficult, but . . . maybe? There are big differences. Speculation, to be sure.

That’s a new one, I think there’s an idea that spanking and childhood generally are far newer than that, even as recent as the enlightenment, this is the reachiest reach I will have made yet, how could it possibly be?

Ah, The Dawn of Everything again – what if it wasn’t a thing for the Turtle Islanders and what if the enlightenment they started meant that for the first time anyone in Europe bothered to NAME children and childrearing, and abuse?

Not proof, obviously.

But maybe?

I could be like a TV producer sort about it, like Ancient Aliens, refer you to “many legends,” that suggest something happened suddenly around twelve thousand years ago, of course there was a great leap in global warming and floods, inundation of any possible coastal cities, and there was the agricultural revolution and people have theorized many things to explain something sudden, from creation stories, to alien visitors to the far more reasonable and common weird magic that happened, “due to increased population/city size,” with no agreed upon mechanism for that.

I have seen talk of another sort of mind in or before ancient times, the “bicameral mind,” and this is closer to saying “a neurotype event,” like I’m trying to make happen.

It would seem self evident that if the common sort of mind changes, that the world would change subsequently, so perhaps, rather than thinking some Autistic savant created the agricultural revolution, it makes more sense to think that the population of Allistics passed some tipping point then, and people gave up their freedoms for something else – security from one another, they’ve always said this was it forever, maybe more so this recently – and started building fences and whatnot.

I suppose I’m talking about the same event the Chalice and the Blade was about too. Of course some of these things are more recent than that twelve thousand years. Was a long time ago, reading that one, I don’t remember the timeline.

Jeff

Feb. 28th., 2024