Abuse with an Excuse

The problem ones have social gifts and rational disabilities, not the other way about. I am postulating, in lieu of our sociopath CEO’s a sort of a super-Allist.

“Normal,” to the point of disorder.

I want to revisit the definitions of the antisocial neurotypes mentioned in the first, psychopathy and APD and say that from my own social . . . situation, OK, disorder, from my perhaps asocial neurotype, I want to say that a psycho- or sociopath being charming and succeeding socially doesn’t look different than anyone else being charming and succeeding socially. Honestly, when Allists are speaking among themselves and charming and succeeding with one another, I don’t always understand it, so it doesn’t necessarily always seem authentic and organic to me.

I suppose if there were a sociopath in the group saying the same things and responding appropriately and succeeding in the group, I wouldn’t see any difference at all. And . . . not sure this is cool to say, I’m uh . . . I don’t see how anyone would, I mean if I could grok how anyone knows the difference, I suppose I could do it too. If they are saying and apparently feeling the same things, what is different?

Social success is social success, everyone has to fake it – and you don’t build it for yourself. If a predatory psychopath has a lot of social success, that’s on their whole group, not just them! “Social success,” is not an individual achievement, is it?

Ah there it is, popped up and surprised me – our “psychopath CEOs,” are hypersocial if they over-achieve, more social than the regular Allists, who all seem hypersocial to my sort to begin with. If this is “cold, calculating manipulation,” then their whole crew is almost as good at it as they are, I mean, then cold, calculating manipulation is what brings social success, at least in that group.

But the point, already made without saying so, I’m afraid, is that a monster’s social success is as real as anybody’s, and it comes from their social group – so was everybody, “pretending?” And if so, what’s the difference between that and everyone not pretending, if they’re all doing and saying the same scripts?

I want to shut up and write a book instead. In my world, this is an automatic pop-psych Number One best seller, and I’m giving it away to nobody for free.

Jeff

Nov. 22^nd., 2023